How Divorce Affects Children
Understanding Your Child's Behavior & Needs
Divorce, whether contentious or amicable, will affect the children in some way. If you are going through a divorce, it is vital to consider your children’s emotional well-being and attempt to insulate them from potential pain and hardship as much as possible.
Here are some ways children may respond to divorce:
1) Acting Out
Divorce can make children angry, upset and hurt. Children who see their parents fighting may feel abandoned by either parent, or they may think the divorce is their fault in some way. Children whose parents are going through divorce or recently divorced may act out in different ways that can include getting into fights, performing poorly in school and more.
2) Rebelling Against One or Both Parents
Divorce can cause children to rebel against one or both parents. Children might do this as a way to punish their parents for making a decision that is unfavorable in their eyes. They might also rebel against one parent in particular, especially if parental alienation is an issue.
3) Becoming Withdrawn
Instead of acting out, some children may become withdrawn. The reasons can be the same — anger, sadness, and/or depression — but the way children express these feelings can be different. Divorce doesn’t have to have a negative effect on your children.
Consider some of our tips to help protect your children during the divorce process so your children are not negatively impacted by changes brought about by divorce. Putting your children’s best interests first can help them adjust to these changes in their day-to-day lives.
4) Sense of Relief
Your children actually may feel relieved after the divorce, especially if a huge source of tension in their home has been dissolved. When mom and dad no longer live together, the separation can actually create a more peaceful home environment for children to thrive.
5) Sense of Individualism
When children witness a seamless divorce in which parents become happier individuals, this can actually promote a sense of individualism and independence in children. Seeing parents independently happy can encourage the children to be happy with themselves too.
6) Enjoying More One-On-One Time
Parenting plans can have the positive effect of giving children more one-on-one time with each parent, which might not have been as accessible when parents were living together.
If you are divorcing and have children, we invite you to contact the Miller Law Group today. Our attorneys are experienced in all aspects of family law and can help you work out a parenting plan that protects the best interests of your children. Call now.