How Can I Protect My Kids?
Guiding Your Children Through a Divorce
No one ever initiates divorce with the goal of hurting the children, but sadly, this is the case far too often. Long, drawn-out custody battles can place your children in the middle of a nasty fight that transforms them from children to pawns.
To protect your kids during a divorce, consider the following:
- Be honest, but discreet. While you should take time to explain the essentials of your divorce to your children, avoid giving them too much detail and thereby drawing them into the fight.
- If possible, settle your divorce outside of court by going the uncontested route.
- Avoid talking poorly about your spouse in front of your children.
- Don’t try to get your children on “your side.”
Moms and dads always want to know how they can best protect their children. We are going to give you some ideas, but first, we want to congratulate you on taking the time to learn answers to the most commonly asked questions. Here’s why: You need to be a student of the divorce process. You need to understand finances. You need to understand how to deal with co-parenting. The student who does the homework is going to get the A. We’re giving you the answers, but the fact that you’re taking time to learn is key. It’s going to work when it comes to your case. It’s an investment of your time. It will pay off.
Let’s get back to how you can best protect your children.
The law focuses on the best interests of the child. That’s how decisions are made. You can protect your child by not trying to get back at your spouse. Keep divorce issues separate from co-parenting issues. You always want to put your child’s needs first. You don’t want to put them in the middle of you and your former spouse. They’re not messengers and you don’t want to give them the role of being a spy. You should encourage their relationship with their other parent. Don’t refer to your mother, but rather, what’s mommy going to say? Make sure that you have life insurance to secure child support and alimony payments because whoever is paying — the obligor — if they pass, you’re done. If they die, there’s no more money. You want to secure your financial future by adding life insurance. It will protect you; it will protect your children.